So most tarot card readers will tell you one of the biggest requests we get for readings are readings about people love lives. I think the most popular questions are:
"Is he/she coming back?"
"Is he/she cheating on me?"
"When will I find the one?"
"I'm in a complicated relationship, how does (significant other's name here) really feel about the relationship?"
And occasionally you get doosies such as:
"Should I get married?"
"Should I get a divorce?"
Now, there is nothing wrong with getting a reading about your love life, but it is important to ask the right questions and be in the right state of mind. So to start before you come in...
-Be clear about what you want to talk about.
These super broad questions such as, "Will I ever get married?" and "tell me about my love life" will not get you the most out of your reading. Think about it, when your getting a professional tarot card reading you are paying for a service, you want to get the most information you can out of it. So instead of asking, "tell me about your love life" why don't you tell US what you would like to know about.
-Come in with an opened mind.
I know you want to hear all about your love life in relation to (Insert person you like), but sometimes it won't be about them. Sometimes the reading might bring up stuff that has to do with someone else, and that is ok. We are trying to tell you about everything, not just want you want to hear.
-Realize that sometimes you are part of the problem.
I'm just going to be frank. When you come to us about problems in your relationship, sometimes YOU might be the problem. Now it takes two to tango, but be opened to the fact that you may not always be as perfect as you might think you are. Come to your reader ready to hear about whatever it is that is going on.
-Don't come in a frenzy.
Worst time to get a reading is when your are in the thick of it. You just found those naked pictures on his phone, girl the next person you call shouldn't be me. Take a minute. Gather your thoughts. I'm not saying be over whatever happened, but at least be at a point where you can think clearly. Because when your that upset, nothing we as readers say is going to be helpful. Your just going to be sad.
-Don't "psychic hop" (even though I know you will).
OK, your gonna do this but I'm just gonna tell you now it is not a good idea. Going to 10 different readers in 12 weeks will not improve your situation, but I know you are going to feel compelled to do so. If you can, resist the urge and save your money.
-Remember you are the one who decides how you deal with this.
We as readers can only give you advice and tell you the highest probability of what will happen if you follow a certain path. But in the end, it's all on you darling.
I hope this helps you when you get your next reading!!!
Spiritual entrepreneurs, I love you. I love your courageousness, your tenacity and your creativity. But we need to have a talk.
I've been seeing a lot of stuff online and heard a lot of chatter that is NO BUENO. So lets get better, together!
There are THREE things that are slowly KILLING your business that I have been seeing WAY TOO MUCH of.
1. Stop re-branding your whole business based on trends. Please, for the love of all things sacred, just stop.
I have been seeing a lot of people who every 3 months re-brand their business because of what is popular on Instagram or the latest hashtags. It will KILL your business. I'm serious. Now I'm not talking about changing your website or adding products, that's what you should be doing. I mean redoing your whole business and then calling yourself by a different name and title every few weeks because you see that this is what is trending.
Your customers can see right through you if you are not being authentic. Think about it this way. If your therapist moved offices every month, changed the name of her business every month and was constantly calling herself by a different title very month, what would you think?
You would think your therapist might need a therapist.
So what do you think your clients are thinking when they see all this? They are wondering what the hell is going on with you. And your someone who is supposed to be helping them? Ehhh... that makes a lot of people nervous.
2. Stop airing all your grievances on your business pages, in your blogs and on any platforms that have to do with your business.
Oh man, oh man, oh man. This should be a given but apparently people are still confused about this one. If you have beef with someone, stop telling everyone on your business page. A lot of professionals have their own personal pages where they don't friend clients, and if your on that page talking about your personal issues, that's fine and that is your decision. But your customers don't need to know. There are exceptions to this rule though. If someone has made a personal attack, or stolen your material, by all means, let people know what the real deal it. But be diplomatic and assertive, without being a petty betty. Lets keep it classy folks.
3. Stop making excuses for bad service.
As business people, sometimes we drop the ball. We know that even with the most perfect business structure, we can make mistakes. But don't make excuses to your customers. If you deliver a product late, or don't deliver at all, apologize and make things right. Don't write your customer about all the reasons you couldn't do it and all that jazz. Truth be told, they don't really care. They just want whatever it is that they paid for. And learn from each mistake. For example, if you do tarot readings by email and your site says "24 hour reply" and you are consistently not making that deadline because you are too busy, extend it to 48 or 72 hours. Your customers will still buy your products as long as they know what to expect when they buy them. It's as simple as that.
And that's all for now folks. The best thing about all of these are they are easily fixable! So lets get at it!
Hello everyone! It feels great to be back in the blog-o-sphere!!! I was going to start this week with a much heavier subject, but I'll save that one for later. It's summer here in the Northern Hemisphere and you know what that means: It's Wedding Season. One thing I tend to see with a lot of couples is that they tend to constantly say how much they love each other, but are super scared to broach the serious, hard-hitting subjects that can end up tearing the marriage apart! So I created a spread to help you all out with that. I recommend that each person in the relationship use a full deck to do the spread and discuss it along the way.
1. Arguments: How do you argue? Do you curse at each other or is that a no-no? Are you ok with going to bed angry? A card in this position might help you figure out what you do when you get mad with your spouse, and then you can all talk about what you find acceptable and what is definitely not ok.
2. Quirks: How do you feel about your partners quirks? Can you deal with them. Get this out before you tie the knot.
3. Children: Do you want kids? How many? When? Do you want to adopt? Who is expected to do the "child rearing" or will it be a completely joint effort? Is one person going to stay at home or are you both going to work? Some people still believe in traditional roles, and that is totally fine as long as everyone is on board. Others share every responsibility which is also great, again, as long as everyone knows that is the game plan. Getting this figured out now will help in the long run.
4. Religion: Is your faith or lack thereof important to you? Are there certain celebrations or holidays that are important? Do you expect someone to convert? If you do have/want children, do you want them to follow a certain faith. This is especially important for interfaith marriages.
5. Money: This is a big one that has a few different factors to it.
-Spending: What do you consider a lot of money? How do you spend money?
-Bills, bills, bills: Will all money be shared or will you both have separate bank accounts or will you have you one money and a shared account?
-Debt: I'm assuming you had this conversation by if you didn't... NOW IS THE TIME.
Bonus: If one person makes more money, pull a card for each and see how everyone feels about that. Because we all know that can be a huge point of contention in a relationship
6. Time Apart: How do you feel about spending time apart? Do you like to take separate vacations? While it is totally healthy for everyone to have their own interest, how much time apart is too much time apart?
7. In-Laws: Oh this is big one. The card will let you know how you feel about your partner's in-laws. This gives you a chance to talk about how they treat you and how much say you think they should have in your relationship.
8. Sex and Affection: Man oh man. Now we are getting right to it. How do you feel about sex? I'm sure you have come by this subject but ask your partner how many times a week do they expect to have sex? Do you feel comfortable expressing your sexual fantasies with your partner? Over time this usually changes, but this is a conversation you want to have periodically so everyone is on the same page.
9. Cheating: What do you consider cheating? Is emailing/texting/DM-ing/whatever else other people cheating? Oh and don't forget porn. For some people pornography is a form of cheating. How do you feel about your partner going to strip clubs or watching porn? Talk about it.
10. Long Term Goals: Obviously as your marriage continues, your goals will obviously change. But what is your definition of a successful marriage?
Depending on your own personalized situation, you may also want to pull some cards for things like:
-What would you do with elderly parents?
-How do you feel about baby mamas/baby daddys?
-Anything else you can think of!
So if you have ever been unemployed for more than a month, and were struggling to find a job, you will understand the complete and total panic attack which is transitioning from job to job. Even though you know you have it, it's still an odd feeling being in limbo. Plus, the feeling of not really being "anywhere" makes you feel that unemployment anxiety again. This is something I am going through right now. I have never actually voluntarily left a job except when I was in high school, and even then I remember having this feeling like I had no idea what I was doing and I was super unsure of what was going to happen next. I also have been at my current job for a while and while I love my co-workers, I don't really enjoy my job but have been too scared to leave. Finally I got the guts to start looking and an awesome opportunity to do something totally out of my comfort zone arose. So now I am transitioning into a specialty I have never worked in but have always been of interest to me and trust me, I'm nervous. I'm also excited, terrified, and hopeful that this will be something I will enjoy. So to calm myself down, I decided to take out my trusty tarot deck and create a spread to help me calm my anxiety and maybe to help you too!
1. Central Theme
2 & 3- How can you move through this transition smoothly?
3. What will this new job give to you?
4.What will you bring to this job?
5. What lessons will it teach you?
6. What might change about you?
I hope this helps will your nerves the way it helped me!
If you don't know know about Lenormand, YOU BETTER GET WITH IT! Just kidding, but Lenormand is pretty awesome. For those of you out there who don't use the Tarot for fortune-telling and want to learn something new, here you go. Lenormand is an awesome fortune telling system made of 36 cards and was popularized by Mlle. Lenormand, a famous French fortune-teller who even read for Josephine Bonaparte. I have been using one Lenormand deck since I started learning and studying, and that is The Gilded Reverie Lenormand by Ciro Marchetti. Since I pretty much love everything he does, it was a natural progression. And it is a fantastic deck! And since I started reading I had found that was the only Lenormand deck I could use... until now! I recently bought two wonderful decks, one of which was The Lenormand Revolution by Roz Foster and Carrie Paris. I've been a fan of Carrie Paris in general for some time and I love her use of vintage photography in her work with decks.
Deck Summary: This deck is called the Lenormand Revolution because the images on the cards are images that were made about the French and American Revolutions.The vintage and historical part of the deck are definitely the most interesting. The summary on the Lenormand Revolution website is "The Lenormand Revolution is a traditional Lenormand divination deck. Visually and historically rich card art alludes to 18th century European and New World unrest, touching on the culmination of these turbulent times: the American and French Revolutions. With a nod to the famous French reader Mademoiselle Lenormand herself, each card features a French title with an English translation." If you are a lover of history as I am, you will love this deck.
The Packaging: The tuck box that this deck come in has the image of the extra card on the front, The Revolution. It's a regular tuck box, so you might need a bag for this deck. One thing I always love about Lenormand cards is that they are playing card size. If you have smaller or medium size hands they are super easy to shuffle and handle.
The LWB: The Lenormand Revolution comes with a small booklet with the keyword meanings of each card. The one thing with Lenormand is that even with a book, it is hard to read if you don't understand the combinations. Lenormand is all about combinations. One really cool thing is there is also a an iOs app that goes with this deck that has additional meanings, spreads and tutorials on how to read Lenormand.
The Deck: Ok now we can talk about the good stuff. This deck is absolutely amazing. The pictures and the color tonation of the photos give you the feeling like you are at Mlle. Lenormand's salon watching her go over each of the cards with a fine tooth comb. The cardstock is a little light for my liking, but that is not even that big of a deal. The cards are arranged as so:
-In the upper left corner is the number corresponding with the card.
-In the upper right corner of each card is the French name for each card (and below in the lower right corner is the English name is your French is rusty... or non-existent).
-Under the French name, is the playing card association.
- In the center is the picture.
The imagery is so beautiful it really excites one to read with this deck. I have so may favorite cards in this eck it was hard to narrow it down but here we go. I really like the child card that is a portrait of the young Marie Anitonette, the Sun, the Bouquet, The Ship, the Moon and the Cross. Oh and another great thing about this deck is it comes with 3 Man cards, 3 Woman cards are 2 child cards. The child cards are one male and one female, which is nice. Whether or not you are doing a reading involving a child, it is neat that you have the option to pick the gender. Also, I think most diviners enjoy having more than one man and woman card when dealing with same-sex couples or situations that deal with two people of the same gender. Also with the men and women cards, there are two that say "gentlemen", two that say "ladies" and one that says "Seer" which is an older woman and the other says "Inventor" (an older man). Another neat little quirk about this deck.
Divination Potential: This deck is FULL of potential. The reading are clear, accurate is it's a deck you will enjoy looking at.
Final Note: This is a really awesome deck. That's basically it. If you want to add to your lenormand deck, check it out.
So I have often thought of why dating someone involved in the metaphysical might be cooler than dating anyone else. I mean, why wouldn't it be? We help people, we study our craft day and night, we work so hard to improve others lives, who wouldn't want to be with someone like that? So I've come up with 10 reasons you should date a diviner.
10. We are really good listeners.
Our jobs/hobby is listening to people so when you have a problem, we are the ones to go to.
9. Advice is our specialty.
We don't only just use our advice from the Spirit World to guide us, but we have seen a lot and heard a lot, so if you want it, we are happy to give you some advise.
8. We are really good at being honest.
Objectivity? We are are great at that. Especially tarot card readers if I do say so myself. You might want to lie, but that Three of Swords card will not.
7. We are natural born problem solvers.
Need your chakras balanced? Got a guy for that. Need to talk to your spirit guides? I got someone for that too. And if all else fails, we will let you know that none of this is a replacement for professional help.
6. We can always make our own money.
We know how to heal/divine/write/create. We won't live off you because we don't want to.
5. Nothing you say is ever "too weird".
Weird? We specialize in weird.
4. We come up with super interesting date ideas.
How can you not come up with awesome date ideas when you have otherworldly powers helping you out?
3. Even our flings are super passionate.
When you are crazy in love with something as awesome as divining, you find that runs into everything else you do. A summer fling with one of is my magical experiences you will ever have and you wont forget it.
2. We are amazing lovers.
I mean, I'm just assuming because we are so awesome at everything else.
1. Our love comes from a place that is deeper than we can even comprehend.
When we love, we love hard, and with everything we have.
So you just got your a new deck and your ready to start using it! But you want to clear it first because you bought it used or just because that is something you feel is important to do when you first get a deck. But how should you do it? There are tons of ways to clear your decks and get them ready for use! Everyone has different ways but here are some of the most popular ways of clearing your deck:
Smudging is a great practice to clear basically anything. If you want to clear your house, you can open your windows and doors, and carry a sage bundle and go along the edge of every window and door in your home or office. Using sage or palo santo (I like palo santo because I think it smells better) is awesome to clear your deck also. Wave your deck through the smoke and imagine any negative energies being lifted out of your deck. And that's it!
Leaving your decks in full view of sunlight and let the natural sunlight clear your deck. Natural sunlight is extremely rejuvenating for everything especially yourself! Spending time in the sun gives you a feeling of renewal.
Having your deck in full view of moonlight during the full moon can clear and charge your deck. The full moon is a great time for recharging anything and putting really wonderful positive energy into it.
4. Selenite or Clear Quartz
Having a piece of selenite around to lay on top of your deck or to put your deck on selenite to clear them. Clear quartz does the double job of clearing and charging your deck.
5. Put them in order
Take your deck and put in all the cards in order. The major arcana, the cups, wands, swords and pentacles.
6. Bury them
This is a bit extreme to me and I've never done it, but you can bury your cards (in plastic obviously) and let them stay under there for 2 weeks.
It is that time of the year folks. Everything is covered in hearts from head to toe and you know on February 14th you will be receiving and/or giving a gift to your boo. Or will you? In addition to be one of the most "romantic" days of the year, it is also one the most common days to break up. Is the one your with really the one? Is this relationship really benefiting the both of you? I gave created a spread just so you can look over and examine your relationship and see where you are.
Positions 1 & 2- Pick Court Cards that best represent you and your partner's personality. You will be in position 1, your partner in position 2.
Position 3- How you TRULY feel about the current state of the relationship. Many times we lie to ourselves or look at how things used to be "so good". It is difficult to really express our true feelings (sometimes even to ourselves) about what is really going on and how we really feel.
Position 4- How your partner feels about the current state of the relationship. Same story here. Sometimes it can be very hard for people to listen to how they truly feel.
Position 5-Where you see the relationship going.
Position 6-Where your partner sees this relationship going.
Position 7-What do you think you might need to change to be happy/stay happy in the relationship
Position 8- What do you think your partner might need to change to be happy/stay happy in the relationship
Position 9- Outcome.
So you started you business and you've done everything right. You work 2 jobs, stay up late, set up systems to automate services for customers, and get advice from the best. You read all the business blogs and your branding is on point. But everywhere you look, you see people seemingly doing better than you. Or here comes someone who started their business a few months ago bragging about the success they are having on social media. Now your upset, unhappy and feeling unmotivated. But guess what?! I'm here to tell you that it doesn't need to be like this! I'm here to help you understand how to handle these emotions and not let it get the best of you.
I call this my do's and don'ts of business jealousy because it will happen to you, but it is all about how you deal with it!
-Assume: Here's an example. You see someone doing well in your area of business after only a few months and you're hating. But wait, do you know their story? Do you know they stay up all night working on orders? Or they use their lunch break at work to return client calls? You don't know what they are doing to make themselves so successful, so don't assume they have some unfair advantage they may not have. Are putting in all the hard work you could be?
-Give into the hype. You need to know that Instagram follows, Facebook likes, Twitter followers and whatever else don't always equal money. People tend to see someone has 19,000 twitter followers and assume they are making tons of cash. I know several people who a lot of likes, they are "internet famous" and you see them everywhere but their business isn't booming. Also, anyone can tell you they are making money. "Hey girl, I make 6 figures every month!". See, I just did it! But how would you know that through the internet? You wouldn't. Don't worry about how many likes and followers you have, worry about putting out awesome content.
-Spend time staring at social media profiles: Feeding off my last point, remember people only put things on social media WHEN THEY ARE AT THEIR BEST. Studies have shown that social media actually makes people depressed because they think everyone else lives are better than theirs. LIES. No one is writing about how their business is at a stand still or having difficult days trying to get themselves to be productive.
-Get mad at that person: Why are you ragging on someone else's success? Be happy that someone else built up a successful business as proof that you can do it too!
-Just do what is trendy because everyone else is doing it: Are you staying true to yourself? The worst thing to do and the best way for customers to not trust your brand is to CONTINUOUSLY CHANGE YOUR BRAND BASED ON TRENDS. Are you constantly changing things in your business because everyone else is? Bad idea. This is especially true when you have a primarily online business. People don't really get to know your personality in-person so your internet presence needs to be consistent. When you stay true to your brand and do what is meaningful to you, you do your best work and your customers can see that.
-Manage your time better: Are you really working on your business as much as you could? Are you spending an excessive amount of time on things like social media, watching your favorite TV shows or going out with friends? What could you be doing to spend more time working on the business? When you hear success stories, you will hear stories of spending nights and weekends burning the midnight oil. You hear about the TV being the babysitter for the kids. You hear of people whose struggle was very real. You may say, "Well I'm starting my own business so I don't have to do that!" and you will get there one day. But right now chica, you need to be on that grind.
-Admire and Get Inspired: Does your business crush do something awesome that you admire? Do they have a weekly column you love? Do they have particular things about their business that you find clever? Draw some inspiration from that and do something that is completely your own. Now, this is very important: DON'T COPY PEOPLE. I repeat, DO NO COPY OTHER PEOPLE'S IDEAS. Its not flattering, its wrong and you will be getting a few angry emails and a DMCA take down notice.
-Connect: Connect with people you think are inspiring and great. I can tell you I'm in a few Facebook groups where people are in business and you can connect and talk about the difficulties of business. Networking can get you to the right people and sometimes the exposure that you need.
-Remember that journey is yours and yours alone: Everyone is going to have a different experience when it comes to their business. Stop comparing yourself! We are all great and that is what makes the world an interesting and exciting place to be! If you are doing all you can and being the best you can be, your time will come!
Disclaimer: This post is for everyone. Doesn't matter your gender or sexuality, this is supposed to be my attempt at being humorous. And just to let you know, these stories are not completely made up, bits and pieces come from things that have actually happened to me.
Can we tell the truth in here? Let's be honest people. Dating is hard. Very hard. Getting to know anyone is always difficult and a bit awkward, but getting to know someone and you both hoping that this will turn into something romantic can be ever weirder. It is a lot like interviewing someone to sleep with you. And now with hookup apps like Tinder, Grindr and all the others, you feel like instead of anyone getting to know you, they just want to know about the part in between those legs which can be very daunting to some, and super awesome for others. Either way, dating is somewhat of an adventure. And what better way to start an adventure than by a tarot reading! So I thought up some modern meanings for cards that may come up when your doing a reading on this new person you may be going on a date with tonight. So lets say your doing one-card readings and you pull...
So you met her on Tindr and she didn't say much except that she wanted to met up tonight. She walks in, she's hot. She buys you a drink and she's giving you the eye. What eye? You know what eye, don't act like you don't know!. After talking a for a bit, she asks you if you want to get out of there and go back to your place. You thinking, "Woah, she's for real right now? Should I?" But you do, because you know you want this as bad as she does. Your get back to your place and you guys go TO TOWN. It sounds like a bull is running around your apartment you guys make so much noise. The downstairs neighbors are banging their ceiling/your floor with a broomstick trying to get you guys to shut up. This girl is into some kinky stuff but that's ok, your down for it. Eventually you have to rest because, well, that was a marathon. When you wake up in the morning, she's gone, and so is your wallet.
This person has one thing and one thing in mind only. TO GET LAID. If that's all you want, then hey, go for it. It will be hot, quick and possibly filthy (literally or figuratively, I don't know your life lol). But also be careful of the company you keep. This person may be a liar, a thief, or just may end up being a stalker. You are gonna have a good night, but you may want to think beyond that for your own safety.
Two of Cups
You meet at the restaurant, you hear a voice say, "Hi, are you [insert your name here]?". You gaze up, there he is. Gorgeous eyes, beautiful body, smile that lights up a room. Your think, "Damn he looks BETTER than his profile pic!". When you talk, you find out he majored in Poly Sci and you have the same middle name! He tells you about his elderly neighbor, Edith, and how it's so weird that he has become such good friends with a 85 year old woman! She has even taught him how to knit and it is really helping him deal with the stress at work (he's so sweet, he checks on Edith everyday because he knows how lonely she gets). And don't forget you both love HGTV and the Red Hot Chili Peppers! This is nuts! You leave the restaurant hand-in-hand. You have both are completely smitten and you both know it. He walks you to your door and doesn't even ask to come inside. He doesn't want to ruin this! You reach over and yes! The kiss is happening! It's snowing lightly and it basically looks like you are on the set of a Christmas movie. You get inside the door. You get on your phone and text your bestie because you can't believe this shit. He texts you when he gets home to tell you he's safe and had a great time. He wants to know when your free for another date! Your in love!
The Two of Cups means this one might be THE ONE. The one and only. The connection is instant and very strong. You have been in love before but this is more than just love, this is a bond that you don't want to let go of. This person is awesome and don't worry, we all do the Pinterest thing.
Three of Cups
You were set up by your brother's girlfriend. At first you really didn't want to go, but the more you hear about her, the more excited you get. Your brother's girlfriend tells you, "She's so cool. I'm gonna be surprised if you haven't decided to live together by the end of the date, Your both like the outdoors and she is soooooooo chill. She knows how to make homemade kombucha and she just started her own Kickstarter to support her local co-op! You gonna like her. Seriously." I mean, you do like kombucha, and that is pretty awesome that she supports local businesses, so why not? So you get dressed and ready to meet her at a coffee shop. What the hell did she say she was wearing again? Whatever you will figure it out. So in she comes. She hardly greets you or gives you any eye contact. She smells. Like, I mean, SHE SMELLS. You try to start a conversation with her, and she is SUPER PRETENTIOUS. She went to Brown and clearly feels like because you only went to a state school, she is better than you. She spends most of the date bragging about herself and talking about her ex, who is writer like you, but her ex has written a few books on the New York Best Seller list, and she wants you to know that. Everything you say she has to one-up you, as if you aren't on a date, but some kind of life competition. Your send the emergency phrase to your friend, Andre, who calls you talking and yelling very loudly so that this chick thinks it is an emergency. You run out the door mumbling something Andre's cat being stuck on the roof and that's the end of that.
What a disappointment. This date you had been looking forward to for weeks ends up being a total dud. Everything you had dreamed up was not actually what had really happen. After so many let-downs, you really though this would be a winner. That's ok, onward and upward.
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